Monday, September 29, 2008

At Three Years...

“Grief is the price you pay for loving someone.” Zig Zigglar

This is where I find myself. Three years has past and the grief still remains. Not in the same form or intensity that it has been in the past, but it remains a part of who I am, most likely in one way or another it always will be. I will visit Don’s grave today and especially honor his memory, but more than that I want to remember to pay tribute to his legacy.

I can’t believe it has been three years since Don was with us. The saddest part for me is the fact that I know other people probably won’t remember the actual day Don died. I don’t expect them to really. It is simply sad.

The brightest part for me is that we still speak of Don often, look at old photos and hold on tightly to the memories. We even laugh at things we know he would have found funny.

So many little things still remind me of Don. Things like every time I hear someone say, “That’s what I’m talkin’ about!” or when Mythbusters comes on; when I see a Martin guitar or when I drive by a golf course. There is sadness in my heart, but I smile at the memory.

In a strange way, even my ability to remarry speaks volumes to Don’s legacy. It is because our love was so complete that I am able to love again. It is also his example of how to love that lives on in his sons—their future wives will be so fortunate. Yes, grief is the price you pay for loving someone and we will pay it---gladly because the love was worth it.

In loving memory:

8 comments:

KMY said...

It's so true, Marsha. My MIL, who was a young widow, told me early on that grief never really leaves us. That's not to say that things don't get better or that we can't be happy again. It changes and becomes a part of who we are.

And yes, it was worth it!

((((Marsha))))

Kathi

Trish said...

((((Marsha)))) just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you today and wishing you peace, my friend.

Love,

Trish

Lisa said...

Thank you for this beautiful post about Don. By continuing to talk about him and share your memories with us, his legacy lives on, even for those of us who didn't get a chance to know him as well as we would have liked.

Love to you my friend.

anniegirl1138 said...

I agree that the fullness of our love/marriages is a strength we take into new ones. It makes us optimistic and hopeful people - open and appreciating of life and its possibilities.

Who could ask for a better legacy to leave behind?

Thinking of you.

Trish said...

In memory of Don ~

One who taught us how to leave a true legacy. Well done, good and faithful servant.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vbi4nSrhRxo

Marsha said...

It is funny you should send me this video. I sang this song at Easter before Don died in September and then we played it at his memorial. It says it all, doesn't it.
Thank you my friend.
Marsha

Shelly said...

Thank you for sharing your journey with us....

Thoughts and prayers for you and your kids today....

Yes, the love was worth the grief...most definitely....thanks for that reminder.

Rob said...

(((Hugs))) to you today Marsha.

Take care.
Rob