Sunday, November 04, 2007

What I Know for Sure----for REAL!!!

How many times have you cried out to God—wanting to simply know WHY? Why did I lose my job? Why is my marriage falling apart? Why is my child ill? Why was my husband taken away from me too soon? Sitting in my pew this morning, I was feeling a bit out of place. It has been a long week—one of dealing with disappointments and having to come to terms with the role my job will now play in my life. I was tired—weary—and a bit—negative. P.T. was summarizing the main points of his sermons the past few weeks based on the book of Ecclesiastes. He reiterated something he said earlier this month, but didn’t have the impact it did as I listened today. He merely said, “Don’t let what you DON’T understand destroy what you already know.” Unfortunately, I didn’t hear anything more---my mind turned this idea over and over.

I contemplated my blog and its title: What I Know for Sure. I discovered how trite this statement could seem without truly scrutinizing what it is that I DO know for sure. What are the absolutes in my life that I am so quick to pass over when life becomes unbearable? Why am I so quick to doubt, when there is so much that I know for sure.

It seems to be the popular thing to "take stock" these days. I have received, what seems like, a plethora of emails from friends urging me to stock of something in my life. The last one was “My Favorite Four”. The first few of these I received were somewhat novel: What are four paying jobs I have had in my life? What are four of my favorite foods? etc… I am even guilty of passing on one or two of these surveys, but now---I simply press, “delete” and deal with the four years of bad luck that is certain to come my way. I find myself in need of “taking stock” in a more constructive manner. Today, I have decided to take stock of what it is “I know”, so that when the winds of insecurity and fear blow into my life; I will not permit these absolutes to be shattered.

What I know for sure….the absolutes:

  1. I have a relationship with a loving heavenly Father who loves and cares for me unconditionally. One who sustains my life and allows me to live courageously.
  2. My parent’s love is unconditional. I am fortunate in this aspect. This fact has nothing to do with what I have done, but everything to do with who they are. Though I am sure I have disappointed them, I know their love remains unbroken.
  3. I love my children unconditionally. There is absolutely NOTHING they could do to lose my love for them.
  4. I am not perfect-and neither is anyone else. The grace I long to cover me—must also be afforded to others.
  5. Contentment is a choice. It doesn’t come to me under obligation or because I am “due” it in any way.
  6. Accepting the present creates the ability to build a positive future—one with hope and promise.
  7. Allowing God to work within my life; to guide my judgment and mind-set develops the inner strength needed to face adversity.
  8. I will experience disappointment, heartache and sorrow. It is inevitable and unfortunately just because I have experienced something devastating, doesn’t mean I have been given immunity to heartache. HOWEVER, there is One who has gone before me, experienced each of these and created within me strength for persevering through them.
  9. There is no substitution for strong, enduring friendships. When life’s trials grow more than I can handle—I simple lean on my incredible friendships—those who have chosen to walk the road with me. I am more than blessed in this area and I NEVER want to take them for granted, but always want to celebrate what each and every one of them mean to me.
  10. NEVER, NEVER, EVER say “NEVER” -it will, beyond a doubt bite you in the butt… So what is the lesson--I will not be bound by these absolutes, but will be guided by them.

Now, they are in print, my absolutes---what are yours? This is much more important than your favorite food----take stock so that when you are confronted with those life situations that don’t make sense; you are still able to hold onto your absolute truths-those things you...



Shelly said...


Great post....I am challenged to try to do the same...maybe I will write a blog entry about what I know for sure...

Thanks for sharing your journey...I do enjoy observing it from a distance...


Alicia said...

hmmmmm.... good challenge

Annie said...

Rob told me over lunch today you had written an awesome entry and you sure have. Very thought provoking. It's so easy to lose sight of the things we can be certain of and to "forget" all the things we know. Absolutes though. Wow. A biggie. I will need time to think on this further.

Marsha said...

Well thanks guys---now you know what an ADHD person does during a church sermon----she writes a blog---

Anonymous said...

Yo Marsha,
Have not been on your blog for a bit, so it was great to catch on your life. I know I live about 5 houses down, but you and I both know that I am never home and you are usually busy. The one thing I do know is that if you ever need something you know I am here and I know in my heart that you are going to be there if I need you!
I have been awed at how you have dealt with such heartache. I see how wonderful your two boys are and every now and then as I see Chandler playing basketball in my driveway, I see Don and I am taken back with how he does live through his children.
Love you and pray that I can reach that place in my faith where you are!

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