tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33389069.post2602202100271897453..comments2023-08-13T04:10:21.935-05:00Comments on Breathings of the Heart...: Spiritual ChoicesMarshahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05892880057977848604noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33389069.post-15646940604822263932008-01-12T13:41:00.000-06:002008-01-12T13:41:00.000-06:00I honestly think that people do the best they can ...I honestly think that people do the best they can at any given time; if they could do better, they would. But it is a law of the universe that you will pay now or pay later, and that is true of grief as well. Perhaps they feel that later they will be better able to "afford" to pay the interest on grief deferred. Who's to say it isn't true, for them? I have, through grief, learned to feel my feelings when I have them, because early on I had no other choice, and later, it hardly seemed sensible to choose not to. I always felt a little better after a good cry. You're not a downer; you're a realist. God help her if she ever has to have such a full helping of reality as you have.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33389069.post-470019009558746632008-01-08T22:27:00.000-06:002008-01-08T22:27:00.000-06:00It can be a fine line. When does acknowledging sli...It can be a fine line. When does acknowledging slide into wallowing for instance, but we make choices based on now and our past experiences and what we see as necessary to our survival and our future. Perhaps your "Pollyanna" friend lacks the depth of understanding that you have and she may never know it either. Some people get to live lives like that. Others don't.<BR/><BR/>You are the better example though and I am glad that you share your experiences with us.Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06910254478042104253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33389069.post-87320298191923146992008-01-08T21:35:00.000-06:002008-01-08T21:35:00.000-06:00I really enjoyed your thoughts in this blog, parti...I really enjoyed your thoughts in this blog, particularly the last line. I do believe that I recognize and enjoy the pure moments of joy in my life because of the depth of pain that I have experienced. I am thankful for that new understanding of life (although it came at too high a price).Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05915146391584006818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33389069.post-16205100161072922812008-01-08T17:39:00.000-06:002008-01-08T17:39:00.000-06:00The people who surround me in real life think I've...The people who surround me in real life think I've coped amazingly well. Little do they know how much I struggle with this thorn in my side, which some days digs so incredibly deeply.<BR/><BR/>Oh to still be ignorant.<BR/><BR/>AliMaisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05309794913406397044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33389069.post-5579264002937823642008-01-08T16:57:00.000-06:002008-01-08T16:57:00.000-06:00The work of grief is never easy. But whether we ch...The work of grief is never easy. But whether we choose to face it head on or bury it deep inside, the pain of loss always leaves a mark. Whether it's a scab that never heals or a scar of remembrance is up to us. <BR/><BR/>Good thoughts today Marsha.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08364541553603141168noreply@blogger.com